“The brain is the most powerful thing, even when it comes to orgasm“
What stops women from turning on? Uhoh! maybe we are not doing something that we are thinking of(The to-do list, laundry, bills or tax). Our mind wanders infinite things when we are actually doing it.
A study in 2015, found that women who constantly reached orgasm are more focused on the sensations of sex and the feels of their body. The term called sex mindfulness – opposite to women who observed it more difficult to orgasm. Even the lack of less erotic thoughts can also lead to a less regular orgasm. We are highlighting some important keys to keeping in mind for having a more sensual and regular orgasm.
Say goodbye to negative thoughts during sex
This can be called as a surprising barrier in women during romance. Intrusive and irrelevant concerns during sex lead to lesser performance and degree (You may think this happens only in men). The sexologist and author of All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide To Sex, Love And Life Gigi Engle says “I prefer to think of orgasm as an ‘experience’ rather than something to ‘achieve’.” “The reason for this is pressure – women face enough pressure in every other area of life, so taking it off of sex is a pivotal component in having fulfilling sexual experiences.”
Improve Female Orgasm: Turning on your body
Sexologist and author of Epic Orgasms Isiah McKimmie say that getting clued up on effective tips is the solution to reaching orgasm more smoothly and regularly. Isiah says, “Along with our cultural messages about sex, we also receive very little real education about sexual pleasure or get taught skills to enjoy ourselves more,” So keep in mind that there are two main things- enough body stimulation (the physical) and being in a sexy, relaxed mindset (the mental). According to McKimmie giving 15-20 minutes on foreplay like deep kissing and oral sex can help.
Sex Mindfulness: Switching on your mind
Is there any way to get into a better mindset for am orgasm? Yes, Communication is key. Gigi Engle says, “Your partner is not a mind reader. They are not responsible for your orgasm. You are responsible for your orgasm.” Speak to your loving partner about what works best for you, what you want – even saying them you would like to bring your vibrator within the mix if that’s what you want, works. Also, avoid focusing on distractions and other negative thoughts to feel the pleasurable sensations. And, allow the movement of sexually arousing thoughts or visual stimulation.
